8 Women Christian Men Should Never Marry

 Some guidelines for men who are looking for wives, Since I am mentoring several young men right now and have seen a few of them marry successfully during the past few years, it wasn’t difficult to draft this list. These are the women I tell my spiritual sons to avoid:

1. The unbeliever. In last week’s column, I reminded women that the Bible is absolutely clear on this point: Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is the single most important decision you will ever make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list of qualities you want in a wife.

2. The material girl. One young friend of mine was engaged to a girl from a rich family. He saved up money for months to buy a ring, but when he proposed she told him he needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart budget. I warned my friend that he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. The diva. Some macho guys like to throw their weight around and pretend they are superior to women. Divas are the female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice about hurting somebody else to prove their point. Their words are harsh and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. Some of these women might end up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in the woman you are dating, back away from her and keep looking.

4. The Delilah. Remember Samson? He was anointed by God with superhuman strength, but he lost his power when a seductive woman figured out his secret and gave her man the world’s most famous haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn’t yielded her sexuality to God will blind you with her charms, break your heart and snip your anointing off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys, posts sexually inappropriate comments on Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before marriage, get out of that relationship before she traps you.

5. The contentious woman. A young man told me recently that he dated a girl who had serious resentment in her heart because of past hurts. “Before I would propose, I told my fiancee she had to deal with this,” he explained. “It would have been a deal-breaker, but there was a powerful breakthrough and now we are engaged.” This guy realized that unresolved bitterness can ruin a marriage. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” If the woman you are dating is seething with anger and unforgiveness, your life together will be ruined by arguing, door-slamming and endless drama. Insist that she get prayer and counseling.

6. The controller. Marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the only way it works is when both husband and wife practice mutual submission according to Ephesians 5:21. Just as some guys think they can run a marriage like a dictatorship, some women try to manipulate decisions to get their way. This is why premarital counseling is so important! You don’t want to wait until you’ve been married for two weeks to find out that your wife doesn’t trust you and wants to call all the shots.

7. The mama’s girl. It’s normal for a new wife to call her mom regularly for advice and support. It is not normal for her to talk to her mother five times a day about every detail of her marriage, including her sex life. That’s weird. Yet I have counseled guys whose wives allowed their mothers (or fathers) total control of their marriages. Genesis 2:24 says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Parents should stay in the background of their children’s marriages. If your girlfriend hasn’t cut the apron strings, proceed with caution.

8. The addict. So many people in the church today have not been properly discipled. Many still struggle with various types of addictions—to alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription medicines or pornography—either because we don’t confront these sins from the pulpit or we don’t offer enough compassionate support to strugglers. Jesus can completely set a person free from these habits, but you don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out your wife isn’t sober. You may still be called to be married, but it is not wise to tie the knot until your girlfriend faces her issues head-on.

Your best rule to follow in choosing a wife is found in Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Look past the outward qualities that the world says are important, and look at the heart.

Source: J. Lee Grady 

The Folly of Disobedience

TEXT: EXODUS 9:1-12 Key verse: “And the magicians could not stand before Moses because of the boils; for the boil was upon the magicians, and upon all the Egyptians” (Exodus 9:11).
God, very often, repeats Himself so that men can have ample opportunity of amending their ways and become conformable to His will. However, many spurn this gesture and continue in their rebellious ways of life.


In our text, God had further appealed to Pharaoh: “Let my people go”, the failure of which, God told him, would bring His judgment against Egypt’s livestock in the form of “a very grievous murrain”, a terrible plague. But Pharaoh was obstinate. Therefore, God executed His judgment and all the cattle died. Even so, Pharaoh persisted in his obstinacy and hardness of heart, and God executed a sorer punishment (this time without a prior notice) on Pharaoh. God sent boils upon every man (including the magicians) and beast. Even then, Pharaoh hardened his heart, as a result of which the Lord justly gave him up to his own heart’s lusts, a reprobate mind and strong delusions.
God speaks to men today concerning His will through the Bible and His appointed servants. Indifference to God’s word has brought untold hardship and suffering to many lives, evident in sudden deaths, loss of jobs and health. Moreover, persistent, flagrant disobedience and arrogance against God’s word in the face of God’s continual entreaties hold very grave consequences both here and in eternity.
How are you responding to the commandments of God? Are you filled with your own ways and, because of that, you are already in the judgment hall reserved for the obstinate? Remember the judgment of God on Pharaoh and the magicians! It is not too late to repent and call upon the Lord for mercy. Do it now!


THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Hardness of heart attracts God’s fiery judgment. 

WAITING FOR A TESTIMONY

I am waiting for a testimony.

It will certainly come.

I am trusting God.

I have faith.

These are some of the slangs that we use as Christians. Even non Christians have heard it so many times that they just go along with it.

But really, if we do that which we said that we did, how come we are not getting results?

At this time of the year, I think a lot of us look at the year and we are already starting to take account. We ask...what have I achieved ? What do I want for the new year?

In the process of answering that, we realise often, if we look really hard, that most of the faith that we had was not in God! It was in people around us!

You wanted a job....you THOUGHT your uncle would help you get it....or your BOSS would like you and recommend it.

You were hoping that the doctor will heal you. You were hoping that the bank will give you a loan to start your business!

Your expectations were on PEOPLE....not God!

When you are waiting on God, your eyes are on Him .....when He uses people, you still give Him the thanks....and there are no disappointments!

What do we get when we look into the hands of man for solutions? HEARTBREAK, DISAPPOINTMENT, SORROW!

Someone who cannot take care of their own live does not deserve our 100% trust.

I have heard of people who committed suicide because the person who was supposed to HELP THEM failed!

You don't have to commit suicide to show us that your confidence is in that human being....God knows where you are looking...To Him or to the hands of men!

You crazy Galatians! Did someone put a hex on you? Have you taken leave of your senses? Something crazy has happened, for it's obvious that you no longer have the crucified Jesus in clear focus in your lives. His sacrifice on the cross was certainly set before you clearly enough.

Let me put this question to you: How did your new life begin? Was it by working your heads off to please God? Or was it by responding to God's Message to you? Are you going to continue this craziness?

For only crazy people would think they could complete by their own efforts what was begun by God. If you weren't smart enough or strong enough to begin it, how do you suppose you could perfect it? Did you go through this whole painful learning process for nothing? It is not yet a total loss, but it certainly will be if you keep this up! (Galatians 3:1-4 MSG)

When you are looking from the mountain top...you find it easy to spot the little things moving on the ground. When you are on the ground and focused on what is on your level, you will miss the big movements on the mountain tops!



If you need God to work on your behalf, don't expect Him to work through the reason whom you choose and humanly adore. It's up to God to do what He says He will do.

Now, stop wasting precious time looking and fearing on anyone, even your hubby, uncle, parents, boss!

They are only human. Even they need God to fulfil the little promise that they made to you!!

Save yourself heartache in the remaining days of 2014... Change your expectations of human beings......they can fail. Let your 100% focus be on God, leave Him to sort it the medium through which He blesses you.

Are your eyes really on God?

When you say I AM BELIEVING GOD, are you waiting on Him or on someone else? He doesnt fail those who are waiting on Him....

By sis Bola.

5 Ways in controlling your anger

But if you are feeling frustrated often, yelling at your partner, criticizing your colleagues and friends, blowing your horn in traffic, throwing things around the house, then you might want to take your anger seriously and do something about it.

1: Most of us get angry at times  often over things that on reflection seem trivial. But if you are feeling frustrated often, yelling at your partner, criticizing your colleagues and friends, blowing your horn in traffic, throwing things around the house, then you might want to take your anger seriously and do something about it. Over the many years that I have been seeing patients, I can tell you that very few people come in and say, “I have a problem with my anger.” They might say, “My husband -or wife -thinks I have a problem,” or “My boss thinks I have a problem.” Or, in a few cases, “I was arrested and anger management was part of my plea bargain.” So, owning up to the problem may be the first step. And it may be hard to do.

2: Let’s distinguish between feeling angry and being hostile. Your emotion -anger - can be a private event that only you know about. You can stand in line impatiently, feeling frustrated and just feel really angry. But you say nothing and you do nothing. Or you can start yelling at the other people in the line and let everyone in your immediate range know you are angry. When you act on your anger by yelling, criticizing, threatening, or expressing sarcasm, you are being hostile. It’s your hostility that will get you into trouble. Keep in mind that you don’t have to act out your feelings. As simple as this observation may seem, it is important. It helps you recognize that you have a choice as to what you do.

3: What are the costs and benefits of being hostile? Ask yourself what the consequences have been for you and the people around you. Have you lost friends, upset your partner and your kids, gained a reputation as a difficult person? Anger can increase your blood pressure and risk of heart disease. But anger may also have benefits at least you might think so. You might think that people will take you seriously, you will feel good about standing up for yourself, and your anger might motivate you. Look at the tradeoffs. Would you recommend that your friends become more angry? Why not?

Take a step back. You can pull away even for a minute or two to think things through. You don’t have to respond immediately. Think it out what are the consequences of being hostile? Is it worth it? Can you just let it go and accept it as a “bump in the road” as opposed to a challenge to a duel?

4: What are you telling yourself that makes you so angry? You can make yourself even more angry when you take things personally, interpret other people’s behavior as intentionally provocative, view an inconvenience as if it were a catastrophe, or label the other person as a bad person. Examine your thoughts and ask yourself if this event is worth getting angry over. Ask yourself if the other person is just doing what they do but not singling you out. Ask yourself if it might be worth accepting that people don’t always live up to your expectations  but you don’t have to upset yourself about it.

5: Do you have a rule-book that makes you even more angry? You may have a list of “should” about how other people should act and these infuriate you when people don’t follow your rules. Examples are “they should drive faster,” “this line should move faster,” “people should always be polite and respectful,” “everything should be fair,” and “people shouldn't disagree with me.” What if you dropped the rule-book and simply observed that the world is the way it is and wasn't built for your rules?

Keep a record of the situations that lead to your anger and your hostility. Keep track of your thoughts and try to use these ideas. You might find yourself less angry and less anxious and the people who care about you will appreciate your progress. You can control your anger rather than let it control you.

Soure: Huffington Post

Fear No Rejection

TEXT: JOHN 9:13-38

Key verse: “Jesus heard that they had cast him out; and when he had found him, he said unto him, Dost thou believe on the Son of God? And he said, Lord, I believe…” (John 9:35,38).

All men are born into one form of belief or the other. This belief could be strengthened or weakened by parental upbringing. As we grow up, societal influence and teaching at school either bring a change in the belief or reinforce it. Stiff opposition should, however, be expected when there is a sudden twist or change in our belief from our religious parents. Our attitude at such a time is very important.

The blind man has received his sight through the miraculous intervention of the Lord Jesus Christ. The Pharisees could not stand this. How can a carpenter’s Son, born in a manger perform such a miracle when they, “Abraham’s seed” and “custodians” of the Law, have no record of healing the sick? There was cause to disprove the claims of this hitherto blind young man and stop the spreading popularity of the Saviour.

The man who was healed of blindness would not be deterred. He insisted on the genuineness of the source of his miracle. This righteous steadfastness earned him excommunication, most dreaded by his parents. Now forsaken by synagogue preachers, this man found favour and comfort in the waiting hands of our loving Saviour, Jesus Christ.

Salvation and faith in Christ bring us into enmity with the world and all worldly religious systems. The mark of genuine repentance is hatred by the world and unsaved religious leaders. It is possible that you have been in a religious group for so many years without salvation. As you turn to the Saviour and are saved, you may be excommunicated from an assembly or by friends and family. You need not worry because they cannot expel you from the one place that matters: God’s Book of Life.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Those the world rejects, find favour with God.

Do you know you can praise God with ABC?

A- Alpha and Omega
B- Beautiful in all situation
C- Creator of the creations
D- Director of the directors
E- Emmanuel; God is with us...
F- Father of the fatherless
G- Guardian of the Isrealites
H- Hope of our Glory
I- Internal Rock Of Ages
J- Jesus our saviour
K- King of kings
L- Lion of the tribe of Judah
M- Mighty Man in Battle
N- Need for the Needy
O- Old man Who is always new in strenght everyday
P- Powerful God of Host
Q- Quick in actions but slow in anger
R- Redeemer of our soul
S- Salvation of our life
T- The only Man Who will remain forever & ever. ... Amen.
U- Unstoppable & Unchangeable God
V- Very big God Who is always by our side
W- Wonderful God
X- Xylophone is not enough to praise God for what He has done for us
Y- Yokes are broken by His name alone (Jesus Christ)
Z- Zion, His Holy City.

Free free to add yours.

-by Demilade

Planning to get rid of some extra fats from your body?...

Here are 10 Foods That Burn Fat

1. Oats : Its not only tastes great but also reduces your hunger. Oats contains fiber which helps and stabilizes the levels of cholesterol.

2. Eggs : Eggs are the rich sources of proteins and low in calories. Eggs helps us to build the muscles and develops the good cholesterol.

3. Apples : Apples are enriched with powerful antioxidants and other supplements. Most importantly it contains Pectin which helps to reduce the fat cells in the body.

4. Green Chillies : Green chillies contains Capsaicin which helps to develop the body growth cells and burns the calories in quick time.

5. Garlic : Garlic contains Allicin which has anti-bacterial properties helps us to reduce the fat and removes the bad cholesterol.

6. Honey : Honey is the best one to burn fat. Add honey in warm water and take it daily in the early morning.

7. Green Tea : Green Tea is the most effective one which helps you to lose weight. It contains Antioxidants which helps and stabilizes our body weight.Take daily 2 cups of tea for a better results.

8. Wheat Grass : It boosts our metabolism and helps to reduce the fat.

9. Tomatoes : Tomatoes helps us to burn the fat in quick time. It also helps us to stay away from cancer. So Take tomatoes in your diet regularly.

10. Dark Chocolate : Dark chocolate contains Flavonoids, anti-inflammatory properties which helps to reduce the cholesterol levels in the blood. It boost the growth of serotonin in the blood and also burns the fat.