EVERY PARENT MUST READ THIS

 

 The first time I noticed my son’s odd habit was when I carried him on my legs in church, I realized he would become quite uncomfortable when my hand was not resting on his crotch, not his thigh, but his crotch, at first I thought maybe he was in pain, and I initially got worried, bit I later noticed his hands where going between my legs, this was not an unconscious action, he knew exactly what he was doing, because I brushed his hand away and gave him a stern look, but moments later I noticed he was doing it again, so I had to drop him off my legs and made him sit on a chair by himself, and did I mention my son was just 4 years old?

When we got home, I brought it to the attention of my husband, and in his usual manner he tried to make light of it, and even chastised me for even thinking our own son would be trying to get fresh with me, maybe he just misses you, he obviously doesn’t know what he is doing or where his hands where, my husband said, and after-all you are gone before he wakes up, and in bed before you return, so don’t blame the boy for trying to get as much attention from you as he possibly can, he added, but I was not convinced, what if my son had been exposed to pornography or had started hanging out with bad kids, I mean it’s never too early to start, especially in this day and age, it made me worry.
The next day I called his teacher on the phone and asked her to keep an eye on him, I told her I had noticed some changes in him and I didn’t want the damage to be irreversible, my son’s teacher assured me she would do her best to make sure he wasn’t exposed to the wrong set of people, satisfied with her response I laid all my worries to rest.

A few weeks later I noticed some strange with my son, I had taken my annual vacation and decided to spend it with my husband and son, on this day I was giving him a bath, and he kept on saying it’s mummy’s turn to suck on the straw, at first I thought it was a nursery rhyme not until I saw him grab hold of his penis, and repeated the words he said earlier “it’s mummy’s turn to suck the straw”, and while he held his penis, I noticed it was getting erect, now don’t get me wrong, I have noticed his erection before, in these cases it usually meant he needed to wee-wee, or he was just waking up from a nap or something, in other words very involuntary actions, but this time I felt he was getting aroused, I was so embarrassed I stood up, brought him out of the bath and quickly wrapped him up in a towel, I did all this without looking at him.

I immediately told my husband, and this time I didn’t take it lightly, he saw the seriousness in me and together we grilled our little boy, until he opened up and told us where he learnt the song.
Sometimes you see a lot of things reported on TV and in the papers, and you say to yourself, do these things really happen, or are they stories fabricated by the media to get the attention of the masses, or for print media and soft sell magazines to make a quick buck, and if at all they happen, who would be so blind as to allow it escalate to such an alarming point. Well I was about to understand that these things actually happened, and it was happening to my little boy, the words I would never forget, after long minutes of question and some threats from my husband, he finally opened up, “aunty Tola said she likes to suck my straw and I should not let anyone suck it, and that I should always put my hands inside her pants because it makes her happy”.

I collapsed on the floor, when I heard my son say those words, at first I didn’t believe him, but I realized how on earth a four year old child, would come up with such a story, I stared at my husband, he stared back at me, we were both speechless, and our son stood between us, weeping, I instinctively pulled him close and hugged him tight, and silently blamed myself for not noticing earlier.

We stormed his school, and went straight to the principal’s office, where we explained everything to him and even got our son to tell him exactly what he had told us, the principal was quite upset and summoned aunty Tola to his office immediately, she denied everything, blaming everything my son had said on him having a very active imagination, at this point my husband was hot with rage, and he began threatening to involve the police, and not until my husband actually brought out his phone and began dialing a number, aunty tola fell on her knees begging and crying, and proceeded to blame the devil, we all stared at her in bewilderment, what on earth would possess a full grown woman to sexually abuse a four year old boy, a child put in your care, to protect and nurture, you turn around and hurt, we called the police and she was arrested, I quit my job, and became a full time mum, what would be my gain, if I had all the wealth and ended up with a disturbed and abused child….

This is a great lesson for parents, please watch your children and make immediate moves as soon as you get to see any changes or funny acts in them. Above all, teach them in the way of the Lord so as to guide them in everything they do as they grow.

Source- Praise Fowowe

SOME MAJOR DISTRACTIONS/TERRORIST AFFECTING MARRIAGES TODAY

When you reflect on a few of your major life goals, what do you notice? Do they consist of a better paying job, landing your dream career or do they typically revolve around your love life and having a meaningful relationship? Whatever our goals may be, sometimes they aren’t always easy to achieve. We often have to overcome certain obstacles in order to obtain what we really want. There are usually personal challenges, or other people’s agendas that stand in the way of our happiness and complete relationship satisfaction. Those things are distractions and prevent us from experiencing true joy in our marriages. If love, peace and joy are major priorities for our unions, it is important that we be aware of some major distractions/terrorist that affect our marriages.

1. Selfishness. Too many of us are caught up in our own selfish wants and it diverts the attention away from our partners. Marriage is about putting our spouse first and making sure their needs are met before our own. We must remember that we are not in a relationship by ourselves; marriage is about giving more than we take.

2. Job-Related Stress. The stress that we allow to come home and dwell with us will eventually kill our marriage if it isn’t stopped. The pressure eats away at us causing frustration and resentment that we bring home and share with our partners. It affects our communication, confidence and overall health. When we are stressed by our job, it’s best to allow our spouse to support us, be that shoulder we need to lean on and that listening ear; instead of a punching bag to release on.

3. Other people or a grass is greener mentality. Exes on Facebook who make us feel good, a cute new friendly coworker who shows us a little bit of attention, and those not so real friends who are quick to tell us to walk away from a relationship when there is a small challenge are all major disturbances. The silver lining with this one is that we are still in control. Staying focused on the positives in our marriage leaves little room left for these other diversions.

4. Self-Doubt and Self-Consciousness. Being worried about things like the baby weight we’re struggling to get rid of will result in our not feeling attractive or appealing to our mate. This will ultimately make us shy away from intimate experiences with our spouse. Whenever we feel inadequate we must take action. So if it’s weight let’s work at losing it and changing our diet. But we must keep in mind, we are as sexy as we feel and we must continue to do the things that make us feel good about ourselves.

5. Money or lack of money. Money makes people lose sight of what’s most important. Many couples tend to fight over money, not be completely honest about money and have a secret “just-in-case” account which shows a lack of trust for the other partner. We cannot allow money to have dominion over our relationships. If there is less of it, we have to get creative and be honest and smart with our decisions. But love, health and joy should outweigh money any day.

Because our marriages are so fragile today, it is crucial that we remain aware of the distractions that threaten to destroy our unions. Acknowledging the challenge definitely takes some of its power away. I challenge all the couples reading this post, to fight back. With a strong desire and partnership we can overcome any of the above distractions/terrorist and we should also learn how to pray.
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A MUST READ: THIS IS SAD! WOMEN DON’T EVER BE TOO DESPERATE TO GET THINGS IN LIFE

I want to share this story that I heard about a woman this past week.

This woman had been married for almost ten years without a child. You can probably imagine the kind of pressures she was facing. Her husband was contemplating taking another wife, her mother-in-law hated her, her friends, neighbours, work colleagues etc would comment on her situation and make hurtful remarks. Finally in desperation, she started looking for a solution and she heard about one pastor that performs miracle of curing barrenness. She informed her husband and they invited the Pastor to their home for a meeting. The pastor came for a visit, asked them questions and said she should come to their church for a four-week deliverance session and her prayers would be answered.

She got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy some months later. But while she was in hospital, a doctor informed her that she had contracted HIV and the baby too was infected. Her husband was negative. So where had the infection come from?

After some investigation, it turned out that during the “prayers” and “deliverance sessions”, the pastor had been giving her date rape drugs and he and the three other pastors had taken turns to rape the woman for weeks! The poor woman tried to kill herself and was admitted into a psychiatric hospital while investigation is still going on.

I’m sharing this story to appeal to us as women to please never be so desperate that we get into terrible situations like this. Desperation makes us vulnerable. Whether it is desperation to marry, to have children, to get rich quick, to achieve something that we see others having… whatever it is, we should be patient. It may be difficult, but ladies, PLEASE never let external pressure get to you. Always trust your instincts, if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

And furthermore, if we know someone who is waiting for something she cannot control, like getting pregnant, can we all please make sure we don’t add to her pain. I have friends who are waiting for the fruit of the womb and I would never make careless or horrible comments to them about their situation. It is wise to be sensitive to other people’s situation. After all, none of us can manufacture children, they are freely given to us by God. Because somebody got pregnant one week after her wedding and somebody had to wait for ten years, it doesn’t mean God loves one person more than the other, or that one woman is better than the other.

Have a lovely day!!! By Kike Ogundare.

GET FIRED UP!!!

Service in God’s kingdom demands great sacrifice on our part and total trust in His power. We must daily strive to live the Christ life as we go about our duties. To be fruitful in Kingdom service, we need to get FIRED UP. We will discuss on the acronym ‘FIRE.’

F- stands for Focus. To be great you must have a focus and be focused in your pursuit. ‘Success,’ someone said, ‘is jealous of scattered forces.’ Many people will try to dissuade you from your path but you must steadfastly pursue. Don’t be like the servant, who while he was busy here and there, he lost the man put in his custody (1 King 20:40). Mind your business.

I - Invest in your life. Develop yourself. Watch out for those things that drain your life and avoid them. Study the Word of God. Read great books. Use the internet to get information that will build you, not destroy your life. Build your inner man and fortify your mind. Psalm 119:105 says, ‘Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.’

R – Be responsive and responsible. Responsibility is individualistic. It is having influence. Responsibility is making an incredible impact. But responsibility is time-bound. Lamentations 3:27 says, ‘It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth.’ Take up responsibility now. Respond to the situations. Step out to make a difference; don’t wait for the next person to do it.

E – Execute your vision. Do what God has told you to do. Don’t wait. Dreams should be a ‘Go Thing’. It should be like a grain of mustard seed that grows into a mighty tree (Matthew 13:31). It should be something that compels you.

Note: Three parameters that will determine greatness -
• What you have within – Your character
• What you are with people – Your caring ministry
• What you do at work – Your competence

This week decide to work from inside out. Build your inner man, be responsive to the demands around you, improve on your skills and you will fulfil purpose. By  G. E. Erhabor.

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR PRESCHOOLER ABOUT SEX

 Who is talking to your child about sex? Learn how to take command of the conversation early
According to Dr. Richard Dobbins, author of Teaching Your Children the Truth About Sex, it's never too early to start talking to your child about sex.

"In spite of all you will do to control the social contacts in their young lives," Dobbins says, "there is no way you can totally protect them from the toxic sexual influences permeating our society today."

Because of this, he recommends that parents of young children build a strong bond of affection by offering them lots of hugs, kisses and compliments. Then, Dobbins says to take advantage of this relationship to carry on a healthy dialogue about sex with them from the time they are able to talk.

"By doing this you can be sure that whatever they hear from others won't surprise them," Dobbins explains. "By the time they venture out into the preschool or kindergarten world, you will have become their most trusted expert on the subject of sex."

He says this is the healthiest way to curb their natural curiosities and keep them looking to you as their trusted source of information as they grow into healthy adults.
By:Walt Larimore

 

 

ITALY 2-2 NIGERIA: WONDERFULL DISPLAY FROM EAGLES

Shola Ameobi scored one goal and set up another as Nigeria held Italy to a surprise 2-2 draw on Monday.

Stephen Keshi's men headed into the game having clinched their place at next year's World Cup with a play-off win over Ethiopia on Saturday.

And the African nation carried that momentum into the friendly clash at Craven Cottage, producing a determined performance against the four-time World Cup winners.

Italy were on top for much of the encounter and took the lead early on thanks to Giuseppe Rossi.

Nigeria launched a superb fightback, though, with Ameobi setting up Bright Dike for the equaliser before giving his side the advantage with a fine improvised volley.

Cesare Prandelli's side did level through Emanuele Giaccherini, but there were to be no further goals despite numerous opportunities for both teams.

Paris Saint-Germain goalkeeper Salvatore Sirigu replaced Gianluigi Buffon in goal for Italy, while Fiorentina striker Rossi was included up front as Prandelli made eight changes to the side that drew 1-1 with Germany on Friday.

Newcastle United forward Ameobi was among those recalled to Nigeria's line-up.

Nigeria had the better of the opening exchanges, but it was Italy who took the lead 12 minutes in, as Rossi converted with a delicate finish following great hold-up play from Mario Balotelli.

Sirigu producing a strong save to prevent Ogenyi Onazi's long-range effort from finding the net as Nigeria sought an immediate reply.

Italy dominated for the majority of the half, though, and had opportunities to double their lead, with Milan duo Ricardo Montolivo and Balotelli both spurning clear chances.

Despite Italy's dominance, Nigeria levelled things up 10 minutes before half-time when Dike rose highest to head home Ameobi's superb cross.

There was then a further shock for Italy five minutes later as Ameobi cleverly converted Francis Benjamin's near-post delivery to give his side an unlikely lead.

Balotelli came close to a stunning equaliser as half-time approached, controlling a deflected high cross in audacious fashion before testing Augustine Ejide with a vicious volley.

But Nigeria's lead lasted only two minutes into the second half. Rossi linked up well with Antonio Candreva before Giaccherini slotted under Edije.

Substitute Marco Parolo twice had the chance to put Italy in front for a second time, firstly blasting over from point-blank range after substitute goalkeeper Victor Enyeama had pulled off a fine stop from an Andrea Pirlo free-kick, and then seeing a deflected effort strike the post.

Balotelli and Nigeria substitute Emmanuel Emenike each squandered clear openings in the closing stages, but neither side could find a winner.
The closing stages provided particularly frantic fare as play switched from end to end, much to the delight of those in attendance.
Source:Goal.com

TODAY'S INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES

1,We become what we think about. – Earl Nightingale.

2, Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. – John Maxwell.

3, Don’t wait. The time will never be just right. –Napoleon Hill.

4, I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. – Stephen Covey.

5, Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. – Pablo Picasso.

6, Either you run the day, or the day runs you. –Jim Rohn.

7, Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.

8, Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal. – Henry Ford.

9,The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson.

10, Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, Live the life you have imagined. – Henry David Thoreau.

11, Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?” – Brian Tracy.

12, Believe you can and you’re halfway there. – Theodore Roosevelt.

13, Once you choose hope, anything’s possible. – Christopher Reeve.